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Sixty questions we actually use in the room, sorted by the situation you are in. Pick your meeting, hit shuffle, and read the question out loud. No sign-up, no email, no spinning wheel of nonsense.
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The question matters less than how you run it.
Bound it out loud. "One sentence each, we will go round, I will start." Without a limit the first answer sets a four-minute standard and everyone after shortens theirs out of guilt.
Go first, at the depth you want back. Whoever answers first sets the ceiling. A vague answer from the chair produces ten vague answers.
Make passing real. Say "pass is fine" and mean it. One person passing is healthy. Half the room passing means the question was wrong, not the room.
Do not start with the most senior person. If you want honesty rather than performance, let seniority answer third or fourth.
Use the answers. An icebreaker that has nothing to do with the meeting is a tax on everyone's time. Pick a question whose answers feed what happens next.
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Match it to the meeting, not the mood you wish the room had. A two-minute standing meeting needs a one-sentence opener; a workshop can carry a question that takes real thought. If the answers will not feed the meeting that follows, choose a different question.
Two to four minutes for a regular team meeting, five to ten for a new group, and up to twenty at a workshop or offsite. Say the time limit out loud before you start. Without a boundary the first person speaks for four minutes and everyone after them shortens their answer out of guilt.
Three things, usually: it is compulsory, it is irrelevant to the work, or the most senior person answers first and sets a performance standard everyone else copies. Make passing a real option, keep the question connected to the session, and never open with the boss.
Yes, but change the question. Familiar teams do not need introductions, they need a reason to say something they would not normally say. Ask about invisible work, unused skills, or where things get stuck between people.
Anything that pressures disclosure about family, money, religion, politics, health or relationships. Also avoid questions with an obvious right answer, and anything that rewards the person who is already most comfortable talking.
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